1. MY SO-CALLED ‘POST-FEMINIST’ LIFE IN ARTS AND LETTERS by DEBORAH COPAKEN KOGAN

    “Fast-forward to 1988: I am raped by an acquaintance the night before my graduation from college. The next morning, before donning cap and gown, I stumble into the University Health Services building to report the crime. I’m advised not to press charges. “They’ll smear you,” I’m told by the female psychologist assigned to my case. I don’t want to be smeared. I’ve got a life to live. Twenty-five years later, while watching CNN lament the effects of the Steubenville rape on two promising lives—the rapists’, not the victim’s—I’ll hold two competing thoughts: nothing has changed; I wish I’d been braver. I decide to Google my rapist’s name, something I’ve never done in the quarter-century since the crime. His promise, I note, has been duly fulfilled. He’s successful. He’s married—to a woman who recently spoke on a “Lean In” panel with Sheryl Sandberg.”

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  2. THE BOOK OF LAUGHTER AND FORGETTING by MILAN KUNDERA

    “Don’t forget,” said the writer, his face more and more agitated, “it was in Rourou that I first rode a bike. Yes, I tell about it in detail in my book. And you all know what the bicycle signifies in my work. It’s a symbol. For me, the bicycle is the first step taken by humanity out of the patriarchal world and into the world of civilization. The first flirtation with civilization. The flirtation of a virgin before her first kiss. Still virginity and already sin.”

    “That’s true,” said Joujou. “Tanaka, a girl I worked with, had her first orgasm riding a bicycle when she was still a virgin.”

    Everyone started discussing Tanaka’s orgasm, and Tamina asked Bibi: “May I make a telephone call?”

     


  3. No one gets angry at a mathematician or a physicist whom he or she doesn’t understand at all, or at someone who speaks a foreign language, but rather at someone who tampers with Your own language, with this “relation” precisely, which is yours.
    —  Jacques Derrida.

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  4. You get a strange feeling when you’re about to leave a place. Like you’ll not only miss the people you love but you’ll miss the person you are now at this time and this place, because you’ll never be this way ever again.
    — Azar Nafisi, Reading Lolita in Tehran: A Memoir in Books

    (Source: paradoxicalsentiments, via lifeinpoetry)

     


  5. I don’t want to see anyone. I lie in the bedroom with the curtains drawn and nothingness washing over me like a sluggish wave. Whatever is happening to me is my own fault. I have done something wrong, something so huge I can’t even see it, something that’s drowning me. I am inadequate and stupid, without worth. I might as well be dead.
    — Margaret Atwood, Cat’t Eye
     


  6. Young men need to be socialized in such a way that rape is as unthinkable to them as cannibalism.
    — Mary Pipher, Clinical Psychologist and Author, Reviving Ophelia via

    (Source: sunshine-machine, via stxxa)

     


  7. He who fights monsters should look to it that he himself does not become a monster. And when you gaze long into an abyss the abyss also gazes into you.
    — Friedrich Nietzsche
     


  8. We love life, not because we are used to living but because we are used to loving.
    — Nietzsche
     


  9. The wish to be understood may be our most vengeful demand, may be the way we hang on, as adults, to our grudge against our mothers; the way we never let our mothers off the hook for their not meeting our every need. Wanting to be understood, as adults, can be our most violent form of nostalgia.
     


  10. Who knows who you really are? A person is like a novel: up to the very last page you don’t know how it’s going to end. Otherwise, there’d be no point in reading…
    — We by Yevgeny Zamyatin